The story of Yu-Fen Zhang

 Yu-Fen Zhang's story
2008  12   03   13:45 sandwiched bursts of cold, beat in people's cheeks.
cold at the moment as a number of correspondents in contact with the wives of extra-marital affairs experience mood: despair, pessimism and helplessness. They say the most is ; why where. to love very seriously, she is still looking forward to the moment her husband's change of heart. hometown in Fangshan District of Beijing, she had a sister In 1995, Hanwha college after graduation, worked in a Taiwan company. soon, because for my colleagues to succeed, she offended the boss, then resigned from this company, this When exactly in 1996.
renters out after the resignation of Han Chinese, met with Zhang Fan as a tenant (a pseudonym). from Henan Xinyang Zhang Fan can be described as handsome, Yi Miqi eight months head, such as planning a business. short 1-year period, they have their own factories, began to engage in the production and sales of office furniture.
business smooth sailing for them, and ushered in the crystallization of Love New Year In 1998, they known pregnant, to start planning the wedding,
this year, Zhang Fan's parents came to Beijing from his home in the factory to the workers cook, janitor.
1999 年 1 month, their son, Zhang Kai (a pseudonym) was born. With child's birth, their business grew and grew. Although Zhang Fan culture is only the second grade level, but does not prevent the natural intelligence of his fight in the business field. At this point, Hanwha bid farewell to the work, at home and became a full-time wife, son, take care of all.
2002 年 12 months, Zhang Fan has been diagnosed with tuberculosis, then in a military hospital for treatment. for the doctor to her husband, Han Chinese will be home all the cash out of the machine at the same time, tens of thousands of dollars borrowed from relatives.
the occasion of her husband hospitalized, it is the best opportunity for development of the company, Korean strongman China, this time must be independent of the face of all the business field. by classmates as Parents willing to help take care of grandchildren, to , I was also very contradictory, worried about the disease spread to family, but worried about her husband. her efforts, the company resumed its former busy.
2003 on Valentine's Day, so that Hanwha unforgettable. She told reporters, and gave me. beautiful flower, very fragrant. After they had an affair coming out of the news of Zhang Fan. Han Chinese to attend to these baseless rumor, list, hands-on schedule of Han Chinese will be very full, even personally have to follow the company to purchase raw materials, Hebei and other places.
the winter of that year, up strange, Zhang Fan primary care of the body heal.
2004 年 7 months, Han Hua Zhang Fan went to her parents, her back home. However, after 2 months, Hanwha has been sent to a mental hospital in Beijing Hui Long Guan.
visited a mental hospital. Hanwha on medication to regulate the body, Another woman living in together. in the network, she learned that , Hanwha getting out of the doldrums.
, that is, the factory covers an area of more than an acre. .
9 year old Zhang Kai had a pair of blinking eyes water Lingling, told reporters that he parents the school open, door is always open to him, the son can not do without my father! willing to show his real name of the party. with her words, Lijin County, Shandong Province to work in a secondary school, met with Li Jianting. In the same year in October, Wang Hui transferred to work in Dongying City, in the meantime, the two established a relationship .1998 August, Lijian Ting and Wang Hui for the marriage registration procedures.
Lijian Ting told reporters recalled: I am also like to learn Chinese people. Later, he told me that going to work in Dongying City. I want to end the relationship, after all, Dongying City is a prefecture-level cities, where more than he is a good girl. But In particular, he insisted the relationship. move some exceptions.
Once, when Li Jianting home, her husband suddenly asked her, Hui Wang: Li Jianting answer: very shocked, it, I am so an honest man. to verify, ended and her husband separated up to 5 years of life. However, the seemingly happy ending does not bring happiness to the two end.
2003 年 10 17, a family war imminent. On this day, as the Li Jianting unforgettable, haunting nightmare.
l r. I'm afraid the mother son fall out of bed, instinctively shouted, l Wang Hui you go to watch the children, I work a r. the door to the blocked and She kicked, its , and let his son was beaten after watching Li Jianting, No. 13 issued by then forensic identification of the book, wrote: level disability.
2004 年 4 15, a lawsuit filed Wang Hui husband to court to require the same Li Jianting divorce.
Wang Hui's divorce petition, the reporter saw grounds for divorce are: Li Jianting in September 2003, in front of his face and his colleagues, accusing him of raising outside Miss, with an extremely abusive language to slander him.
fact, in the event of domestic violence before this, the couple have trouble ruthlessly out.
l mistresses r. ? that woman is who? these problems plagued Li Jianting time.
Thus, Li Jianting began tracking her husband. A few days later, she really found some clues. very close. > husband and wife began to separation. but, this separation of life, so that Li Jianting see is a desperate way.
2005 年 4 11, the court granted a divorce Li Jianting couples do not.
June 2005, Li Jianting embarked on the path of legal rights, she denounced the alleged intentional assault her husband Wang Hui.
Lijian Ting told reporters: hope. If the sentence, then the public will not her husband, now serving his sentence in prison. this is all he deserves. those days, I wore a lot of pressure, I, as a teacher, need to face so many children and parents, a lot of people behind me pointing, and said I was cat. I believe that the law will also do justice to me. books, Dongying City People's Procuratorate to the dragged the body of the disabled, the use of winter and summer vacation time to the unit where Wang Hui reflect the higher authorities, but they are fruitless.
. but I told him reach this goal. father, anti-corruption website mistresses of households, which makes her as if they see hope.
has always been a ritual of the village, how would there be such a big contrast to what? materials will be transmitted their website. ; China's Anti-Domestic Violence Network the 35-year-old Li Jianting from this long-awaited trial will be the case of intentional injury. In end of the interview, she told reporters, ;
the road must be taken
Ma Hui (a pseudonym) always wanted to figure out the problem. In the nearly two-hour telephone interview, she's no fewer than two dozen remark.
Ma Hui's home in Fujian Province In 1989 She married her husband, married with two children, one child and a daughter. married couple jointly owned a factory, life peaceful and happy.
then, often out socializing gradually lost her husband being in a false picture.
2004, the husband and a local hotel waiter and began living life, regardless of Ma Hui's feelings openly with the pair of woman to attend a variety of occasions, come forward to the occasion by the wife, her husband and also with the woman Ma Hui and out of the house with a pair of children.
Ma Hui initially intent on maintaining the family, therefore, categorically do not agree to a divorce. but the husband went to Italy has already decided, the common external debt of more than 200 million. , wants to sue her husband of bigamy, you have to produce concrete evidence to prove that her husband has been with the .
Thus, Ma Hui thought the survey company, survey company, please follow her husband and identity in a variety of occasions, they live near people know that they are husband and wife. to come and trouble, we took out a marriage, and I is his current wife, The woman gave birth to a son in Hong Kong.
Subsequently, Ma Hui with the evidence collected to the people's court, the court filing court judge told her the facts of illegal cohabitation is not equal to marriage, her hand on the lack of evidence, can not sue her husband suspected of bigamy.
Ma Hui told reporters, all the common property, but also need to share her husband of more than 200 million owed the debt is not his own. 45 In winter, a family of small Beijing courtyard filled with wreaths. distraught hair off the daughter and granddaughter of people. old man crying: the son of peasant origin rely on relationships with their own step by step onto the pinnacle, the results , son in law there is a to divorce. results, and other son left home, his granddaughter to drink some pesticide committed suicide, then her daughter as the child away. howling north wind whistled, but can not hide the anger of the elderly.
nearly 50 years old this year Korean from Xi'an also experienced the pain of her husband having an affair. removed, and Professor Shen-year-old music, like the East Guo like to help the others, but the bitter taste of someone else brought her. the husband is none other than the object of having an affair, but she had personally helped uncle's daughter. Shen Yue has helped the dry daughter to contact the University, finding a job, issue, but moral issue. Nevertheless, she chose to let go of her and her husband divorced mm. But after the divorce, her life is not peaceful, many of my colleagues suffered sexual harassment. In an interview more than 2 hours later, She eventually abandoned her experience made public.
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almost tearful when listening to their voices, the journalist has quite bear, because Give your child a complete family. should be more to explore, as her husband's responsibility: the responsibility of the family, even his wife's responsibility to social responsibility! The error continued to punish myself. women to cherish.
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what percentage of the problem is caused by a third party broken marriage, I do not have national data, but from the Peking University School of Law Women's Legal Service and Research Center in recent years, data can be piece of a jigsaw related consulting. Advisory data show that domestic violence by 2006 leading to breakdown of the marriage to be a result of the first, accounting for about 33%, while after 2006, because the other suspect that a third party or a third party rose to lead one cause of divorce , accounting for about 30%.
the Haidian District People's Court, according to the Marriage Law Amendment types of divorce cases after the implementation of the survey, the problem caused by a third party to divorce in 1980, 12%; 21% in 2001 and become the second largest incentive for divorce, and in 2008 accounted for 33.6%, jumping to a variety of factors, the first divorce. From the above data, we can see that in China, marital crisis caused by the the following:
1. of traditional marriage, , so that Chinese ethics, values, marriage have changed. people a higher quality of family life demands, more the pursuit of spiritual joy and reflection of the value of self love and marriage, single-mindedness is no longer the core values of people towards marriage. It is also the emergence and existence of a third party to provide the space.
2.'s economic development so that people less dependent on the family.
as economic development, revenues rapid and substantial increase, whether husband or wife, especially high-income urban intellectuals who can support themselves in their own ability, between husband and wife have family financial support function, and in most cases, survival is no longer a party attached to the other. Therefore, it was more emphasis on the attitude of the marriage based on love. economic independence, so that the emotional needs of both men and women seeking more exotic and romantic love. for the original life is more busy, monotonous modern family, prone to extramarital affairs and third-party intervention.
3. premarital cohabitation weakens the binding of marriage, the bottom line impact of a faithful husband and wife.
change the concept of marriage, many people on the emotional development weak sense of control, leading to both men and women in premarital sex, premarital cohabitation is more prevalent. feeling a sense of focus instead has brought pleasure and stimulation, many young people are proud to have multiple partners after marriage more easily give rise to marital dissatisfaction, frustration is often easy to look to outside of marriage.
4. society more tolerant approach to the third party also contributed to the widespread occurrence of this phenomenon an important factor. a lot of television, films and praise the one hand and third party so-called moral, cultural enrichment of the will have a misunderstanding.
But no matter how the development community, the concept of how people ahead of marriage should remain loyal to the core. This is the long human history of the formation of the values of marriage, regardless of China, or foreign, which are different racial and ethnic common values. Although in different historical periods, the understanding of marital fidelity has been lost, but it is always the idea of human mainstream. The fact that Westerners are concerned about their marriage, the spouse most people loyal and responsible. many developed countries the divorce rate is not high, into the last century, 80 years, the divorce rate around the world have shown a downward trend. In China, law and morality are mutually faithful husband and wife expressed the principles of marriage and obligations.
but the reality is many, many cases through the data and illustrates the universality of the phenomenon in China and extensive third party.
legal reasons to avoid a third party
the above analysis only shows that the third party phenomenon of the emergence of a large number of social, economic and cultural backgrounds, but we understand the situation, on the third party is in fact the story behind the complex, difficult to use to a nutshell.
that many of them there is infidelity, but because of his desire to find a third party; also some in the money or career, career development, the wife and four concubines by three, than daughters of feudal thinking, look for a second wife, three milk, milk, four or even more, and had several illegitimate children; there is look down upon their own development through thick and thin, as they pay a lot of first wife, away the pursuit of youth and beauty. But there are many other cases, such as the marriage is dead, or both of the character, values, sub-cause feelings of both have broken down, or even one poor quality caused by the two sides can not live together, but for various reasons can not divorce himself find true love. In the absence of dissolution of marriage through legal procedures, their love becomes a third party. Faced with this situation, we know who should be condemned?
Because of this, the legal issue of third party is avoided because the law has a legal mandate. binding on human behavior tools, legal, but also ethics. the law is the most coercive power, but it is not a panacea and can not solve all problems, Compared with the moral, its bottom line even lower, only provides the most basic code of conduct. particularly in the private sphere, the role of law is limited, many carried out by the ethical constraints. In the long process of development of human in the treatment and views on things will gradually form a person recognized by most standards, and gradually increased to a code of ethics and constraints. Although it has no legal force of such a force, but if the violation will be condemned by public opinion and abandoning the people, so it gives the soul enlightenment and bound up in some areas especially in the private sphere, it has the unique role of the law can not be compared.
more reflects the moral dimensions of the problem, if it encouraged or prohibited by law, may have very negative consequences. I remember a few years ago to discuss the whole people, punishment the three a third party Although this reflects some of the judges lack of awareness of this issue, but also shows a lot of first wife to the economic sanctions imposed by law their understanding is there is no misunderstanding, they will think that as long as there is evidence of her husband and third parties with her husband and even to a third party to sanctions. So they will spend a lot of time and effort to track her husband and a third party, and some even spent a lot of money to hire so-called admissible by the judge and not a third party, for example, painstakingly photographed each other and the third party together with a photo, but this picture is no proof of force, because everyone has the right to social interaction, he and a common sitting with friends drinking tea why not? Even if there is evidence that the other party a third party, but the law of view, there is no more economic or other sanctions, be held criminally responsible even harder .
rational, peaceful, tolerant
it is not the first wife who can only do nothing, and let the other party and third party sweetly while jealously guarding their availability? Of course not. I think the spouse having an affair, they should a rational, peaceful, tolerant attitude to face, take the right measures to safeguard their legitimate rights and interests.
one reason. sadness is inevitable, but should quickly adjust their mood, objective analysis of the causes. Why so? he (she) What is the reason? he is not also a reason? Where is the problem? Is it possible to maintain the marriage also? If you want to maintain, is it possible? how they should do? If you divorce, property issues, child issues how to solve? if the property is the number of larger, more complex types of property, or the other side conceal, transfer, sale of the property may be, you can ask a professional lawyer, and can apply to the court for property preservation. I was just an example, everyone situation is different, do not exactly. but must be calm and rational face of this misfortune.
second is peaceful. particularly in the rational analysis, it should be treated in a calm state of mind. Some first wife would think that they are been injured in such a way, out to kill him, how could calmly face him?! fact, not only marriage, other things in life are unhappy likelihood, if we can not calm face, to our physical, mental, quality of life will a great influence on the final or hurt ourselves. peaceful course in the face of each other, but the rescue is yourself. If you want to understand this, you will naturally peace of mind. In fact from the center consulting and handling of the situation, many of the parties he is a character flaw, or too bossy or too seriously, or the eye too preoccupied, or too weak and lost self. bossy, seriously, regardless of who should understand the truth, and lose ...